No Sex Before Marriage: is it really still a big deal?
I remember growing up in Africa, it was quite common to hear mother’s warn their daughters that it was wiser to wait till the wedding night to give it up. The plight of the woman who decides to give it up before her wedding day was stressed as many of these women found themselves either with a bad reputation, pregnant or worse.
Fast forward to the present: it seems that it really isn’t a big deal anymore. I was looking at polls from a couple of blogs, as well as magazines and the range of responses was 64 % to 36%, with 64 % saying that it was important that couples had sex before marriage. I decided to step away from what parents and traditional societies state and try to look at this issue objectively:
Pro:
1) It is important to know what you are getting into before signing a contract that is literally for life (if it works out).
2) A way of creating an emotional bond before marriage.
3) Allows you to be find out if you are sexually compatible with your partner. If not – you find out how open your partner is to trying certain things?
4)practice makes perfect.
5)Ehm……does sex is healthy count???
Cons:
1) Pregnancy
2) STD (Sexually transmitted Diseases)
3) Reputation and the great hypocrisy: We know in African societies (regardless of how modern we claim ours are – the reputation of a woman who isn’t a virgin often times go downhill, the more partners she has but for man the reverse occurs – I personally call this trend, the great hypocrisy).
4)religion: Christianity as well as Islamic religions uphold the virginity principle.
5) spirituality: Most people do not want to accept this idea but sex is a spiritual act – the more partners you have, the more energies you have in your bedroom.
6) ehm….does abstinence is healthy count?
I will end by concluding – it all comes down to you, what ever side of the coin you choose to take. I will end by saying this if you are pro premarital sex, please remember protection is key….
Question for you?
Are you pro or con premarital sex? Why or why not?
For women: What will you do if the guy you were about to marry told you he was a virgin and he will like to wait till the wedding night?
Are there still male virgins??
Till next time,
Pammy
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Posted by Pamela Stitch
on June 16, 2009. Filed under Zweli Lunga's Blog.
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