The Almost One Night Stand!!
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August 8, 2008 | By Pamela Stitch | © zimbabwemetro.com ⋅
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So, I joined the gym with a good friend of mine last week (refer to the post before this for gym experience) and all the above happened when we were there.
Okay, I confess, the silence didn’t last 10 seconds but 5 seconds. Anyways sha, my friend met this cute, fine, beautiful man. He is from Haiti. His English isn’t perfect but the mixture of his strong french accent and English just makes his speaking absolutely beautiful. Anyways, they got a talking and they decided to meet on Sunday for dinner and a movie.
So, he picks her up from church and they decide to head on out. On the way, he suddenly realizes that he ‘forgot’ something at home. He goes to get it. She follows him into his apartment. There, he decides to seduce her. Honestly, she told me that if she didn’t remember that
a) they go the same gym. “You really do not want to be known as the local gym slut”
b) BLACK MEN don’t respect women that they sleep with on the first date.
c)He seemed to have gotten some coaching from her ex (yes, they had a bad break up and she knew that her exs gf used to date a Haitian guy and she doesn’t trust any guy that looks like her ex, behaves like her ex or does anything even slightly reminiscent of her ex, yes, she doesn’t even date or go to any function done by her ex’s country people that is how deep it is. The guy was a slime ball!)
She would have gotten down and freaky with him.
But, my question really is:
a) How does one handle a one night stand??
Much appreciated!
iwe pamera yindaba kani!in shona they say kupereka bete kumukaka. she got talking to a strange haiti.hasnt she been warned by her mother not to talk to strangers?waona manje.shonas also say muromo wavakuru hauwiri pasi. dai akakwirwakwirwa wouldnt she be thinking of her mother’s advice?
this was not going to be a one night stand.maybe vaizozvipamha.this was going to be a sex on first date.a one night stand is different.i go to shirichena night club .i scan the queing girls and settle for one .i take her home ndovata ndichiizhaka.i dont even know her name .i dont even intend to know her name.i dont wish anything with her than kukwirana for that night.this would be a one night stand if only it was a better example than include a prostitute.rather i was walking in 9th avenue na chidaushe when (chidaushe was my mate from bindura nickel mine).then i saw this little cuttie pie and chids says tora ka ako.i took he to my flat somehow.no monies exchanged and no names.i cooked she bathed and we had a night of passion or ecstacy as hughe masekela would say.i never saw her never had of her ever again.never missed her.that was a one night stand.iyi yako iyi yes wakapotsa wanzwiswa anakonda yekuhaiti but it might have developed into something else saka i am not sure if we can call it a one night stand.pamela,assuming that it was a one night stand then let me try to answer you.these are suggestions of handling a one night stand.
1.wadya imbwa wotodya gono racho.if you decide to do it do it well.if you are a man rova **** se****.do not leave her a chance to fault you.if you are a woman chiuno ngachishande asare achingoti iyi mai iyi.give it your best..
2.chawawana batisisa mudzimu haupi kaviri.this depends on who you are .kana usiri pademand,then why not.that thing is meant for sex and kuweta.keeping it preserved in your pants is not gonna change anything.if you want a bang get a bang.whether they call you a gym slut or **** bombo whatever at the end of the day you have used it.its either you use it enjoy your self.and possibly be offered cash for it futhi.
3.if you dont want one night stands donot follow single men into their flats.there are two things which when they stray into my flat they dont come out the same.nyoka.ndoirova zvokuti ikasafa inonofira kwayaenda.then a woman because ndotomuzvambaradza chete nommatter how ugly,if you stray into my flat you are asking for it.ndokudashura nayo.
lastly about black men and the first date thing;i am not sure but ini i was very angry with her when i travelled all the way to wales and i came back ndakangoremberedza makasva .i wont forgive her for that day.i think its a myth.ini black as they come i want good food.ukandipa mushe handinei nekuti wandipa first day.you just have to be good and responsive.tapedza woti zvako ‘embambo baba.’ ngikutshele mfazi laphoke ngingakugcina kuhle okumangalisayo
I am surprised that some women still fall for the “I forgot something at home” excuse. If the “something” that was “forgotten” is so important as to interrupt the date then perhaps the date should be postponed. However, it also points to another issue - the fact that grown men and women have to make excuses to have sex. If two people want to just get their freak on, shouldn’t they just pick a venue and exorcise what ever demons are bedeviling them ? Why must guys lie just to get the woman to agree to come their place. Why do women need an excuse to feel comfortable about going to a guy’s place. If you can figure that out, you can figure out the issue with one night stands. Its all about societal expectations.
I think unattached people should just get their freak on wherever and whenever they want. If the gym labels you as a slut, find another gym.
ko mai mwana munoita blog inongova ne kapicture makabata gitare munorasika papi
lucas: it is so easy to say that now but the question really is how do African men view women that they had the one night stand with? hmmm
mumwewo: lol!! true talk and you are right it is all about societal expectations. How African men view women they do that with? How some women view themselves after they’ve done that? It is tied to the whole issue of sexuality. I know guys are going to get me for this but a man can have several one night stands or casual sex encounters and he is viewed as the **** king but if a woman does this same she is viewed as a **** bombo.
lucas: that isn’t my pic. That is india arie with the guitar and no I have no kids.