I almost cried yesterday as I found myself reading the blog of an unknown writer who is based somewhere in the UK. Her story was striking and heart rending as I read her story of how she found herself twenty – three and infected.
Her story was sad because it wasn’t because she was promiscuous or used drugs but rather because she finally decided to give it up to her boyfriend because she was scared that he will stray.
As I read her story, I realized that her story isn’t peculiar to her but one that rings true for many Africans all over the world. The stats on the crisis isn’t a funny one but one that brings fear and sorrow to my heart as I think of how many families will be without a bread winner, child, aunties and uncles because that person has succumbed to the disease. According to the UN-AIDS 2008 report on the global AIDS epidemic, 22 million people were living with AIDS in Africa by the end of 2007, with approximately, 1.9 million people getting affected by the end of the year.
I have often pondered on why the stats are so high for Africans. Is it a result of a lack of information, lack of access – what exactly is our excuse? My answer lies in the simple word, invisibility. A lot of people are living lives without thinking about tomorrow. The common concept is that the universe will take of us.
But how can the universe take care of you , if you do not try to take care of yourself. I am not here to preach to you about how to live your lives but rather ask that you live your lives carefully. If you must have sex, then use the condom, if you can abstain (though I believe this isn’t realistic) then go that route – that method is 100 percent effective.
I will like to also add that if you find out that someone quite close to you has been infected that you stay by their side because they will need you more than ever now than ever before. As, December First approaches, I hope that we think of all the people that we have lost in this war. I ask that we wear something that signifies our loss on that day. I ask that we participate more in protecting ourselves in our private lives.
I ask that African women speak up more about protecting ourselves, and also that we realize that there is no big deal in going to that store and buying the pack. We have to be proactive in our sexual decision making rather than quietly waiting for him to make the decisions. I will end by saying, “no protection no playtime”.
Till next time,
Pammy
Pammy you know this topic is close to my heart.
Firstly I applaud you for at least mentioning abstinance, but by insisting on expressing your un-belief as to weather it is realistic or not. You have planted a seed of doubt in your many readers minds.
I am not afraid to preach and let me preach to you.
Weather you like it or not you have a degree of responsibility in shaping people’s opions and schools of thought. So please try your best to take care of your readers. 13 year olds could be reading this. Just think about the poison they are already getting from the Music videos and lyrics, the newspapers and the movies. YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO AT LEAST BRING BALANCE.
WHILST ABSTINANCE IS HARD. IT IS POSSIBLE.
EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US HAS A JOB TO DO.
IF YOU ARE YOUNG TRY WORKING ON YOUR CAREER. THE SKY IS THE LIMIT
IF YOU ARE MARRIED USAHUURE PLEASE.
IF YOU ARE INFECTED WE LOVE YOU. PLEASE DONT GO ON A REVENGE TRIP.
IF YOU MEET SOMEONE DONT RUSH TO JUMP IN BED WITH THEM NO MATTER HOW MUCH LOVE YOU FEEL. YES HAVE TESTS.
PASI NE AIDS
advisers like you and me are always there but what sort of advice do we give is very important.one of the reasons why people die of these things is just plain ignorance both on mentors and the pupils.we give the impression that we care and we know what we are talking about when we donot.the simple common sense for all is that generally sex should be only with protection period.this should be the view of everyone who is sexually active.even married people who live apart for a few regular periods per year should consider either protected sex or regular tests.married people are the ones unfortunately who make aids look mysterious.imagine someone well respected who secretly plays away from home.these are the people who when the world looks at them after they are infected wander ‘how did it happen.lets be honest with ourselves.i have said it over and over.i generally like my women.i am something some would call a womaniser.yet what has probably kept me alive is that any woman to me is the same.if i need protection with jane then i need protection with lucia and there is just no exception.guys this thing of thinking if i dont give him what he wants he will go is not easy.yes he will go and we need to advise women how to handle that practically.first of all african women must stop being shy about issues sexualtalk about it and it will soon be clear to both of you.tell him straight that yes i want sex but i would rather know you more.yes i want sex but i would rather you and i be tested for aids.yes i dont want sex but i am scared you will leave me.talk my dear sisters its your life.again if women knew how powerful they are for all the time they have not been shugged they would not just spread their legs at will.
ABSTINANCE IS THE BEST NOWADAYS.
Nothing is impossible if you want to. So quit making excuses.
you guys talking abstinence are just being unrealistic.sex is an animal activity that is clearly meant for procreation.it is a way by which we regenerate the human race.abstinence for abstinence sake is not just unrealistic but plain foolish.if i am healthy and maruhwepi is healthy why cant we procreate?abstinence must be encouraged where people have been found to be infected.why abstain if you are responsible and you know that both of you are clean.its not sex per se which causes aids,it is sex with an infected partner.we have to be clear of these things so that we can give clear meaningful advice.sex on its own is not the issue.of course if i were to bed 2000 women after i have had each and every single one of them tested with me , i would sure be wiser than one who beds 1 untested statusless woman.these are practical issues which require practical solutions.yes those who want to abstain and are able to let them do so.but those that cannot or those who WILL not abstain like me have to be careful
Wells aid Lucas, effort should be directed to ensuring people behave responsibley………awareness…….getting the message out there loud and clearly that HIV is real and the consequences of contracting it. Effort should also be directed at quashing the negativity surrounding those unfortunate enough to have contracted the virus, how family and friends can help those living with it.
pfekai guys
Pammy this really is a touchy subject.The saddest part is that breadwinners have at most succumbed to the disease and nobody is gonna take care of the elderly.Guys those of you not in the diaspora you are much safer .Life in the diaspora is much harder than at home,think of a situation where a young girk leaves home for South Africa with friends,when she gets there the friends disappear and relatives are not receptive to her,nobody wants to accomodate anybody in SouthAfrica because of the economic hardships that Zimbos are facing there,and when she is thrown out all she can go to is the street and in the street she meets a man who is willing to accomodate her and she automatically becomes that man’s wife with little or no choice,the next thing she is infected.Im sure thats exactly what happens even in the UK,girls succumb because of hardships,and when a man offers you accomodation he definately wont use protection because he knows you have no choice .
Back home i worked at Beitbridge border post and the number of dead bodies that used to pass through the border for burial at home were mainly of young people and on the death certificates the causes of deaths were mostly AIDS related.It is very sad indeed.
Abstinence on the other hand is not easy,we are all human and need it some time,so that is totally out.Condoms are the only solution to this problem,Lets condomise guys,especially those of us who are still searching.
on december 1 we did our part.takaenda kumashops bought our condoms.went home decided to try and abstain if at least for remembering people who have been hit before us.we then decided instead we will send the packet we had bought tomy mate jason .he can use them if he wants to because ndostaple food yake ,like me.so each year for as long as me and mj are together we will buy a pack on december 1 and post it to one razorman we know,and they are many
I have no coments. Thank you..
Lucas Mambo
Nhai iwe unotinyadzisirei kudaro????????
pro create means what?
kana uchi isa ne condom hapana creation iri kuitika. So procreation is no excuse for promiscuity.
Did you know that human beings are the only beings that have sex for fun or enjoyment?
1. That makes us different from animals.
2. We are far more than mere animals, we think, invent, and do so much more than just exist. We are on a much higher status in creation. Thats why we rule the earth. Not monkeys, baboons, lions, cats etc. (hazvina basa kuti ndiwo mutupo wako) hausi gudo.
The bottom line is HATIZI MHUKA PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Usa batsire ma racist to inforce that notion into our kids.
There are so many other things that animals do because they are animals. for exmple a dog can eat its vomit, WE DO NOT. Cows, Chicken and many others can live with theirs feaces in the same room without a problem (I WOULD LIKE TO THINK WE DO NOT).
ANIMALS DO NOT CARE WHO IS PRESENT WHEN THEY POO PEE OR HAVE SEX. (AGAIN I WOULD LIKE TO THINK WE DO NOT)
If I cant have sex with whoever, whenever, wherever, however, IT BECAUSE I CHOOSE NOT TO. IT BECAUSE I HAVE VALUES.
what you are saying when you say IT IS AN ANIMAL ACTIVITY is WE ARE ANIMALS.
SOME PEOPLE WHO WRITE HERE AMAZE ME HANGU.
IMAGINE IF YOU WALKED INTO YOUR LOUNGE OR GARAGE LETS SAY, AND YOU FIND YOU 14 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER HAVING SEX WITH 3 BOYS LIKE A DOG.
WILL YOU SAY ‘MY BABY IS HAVING SOME ANIMAL ACTIVITY LET ME GO TO THE KITCHEN’??????
OR IF YOUR WIFE HAS GROUP SEX WITH YOUR SISTER?
OR IF YOUR MOTHER HIT ON YOU?
WOULD YOU SAY ITS ANIMAL ACTIVITY??????
ANIMALS DO ALL THE ABOVE
LET ME TELL THIS : WE ARE NOT ANIMALS
LET FINISH BY SAYING.
AS A MAN THINKETH, SO IS HE.
ANA SINGLE GAL,
WHAT DO YOU MEAN CONDOMS ARE THE ONLY SOLUTION???
DO YOU KNOW THAT BY SAYING SUCH A THING YOU ARE PLACING YOUR LIFE IN THE HANDS OF THE CONDOM MAKER..??
HOW COME NDISU TIRI KUFA MANHINGI???
MACONDOM ACHO ARI JAWHI MAMWE HANDITI VAHU VAOPIWHA MAHARA???
QUESTION:
UKAONA BILLIONAIRE ANE HIV AND HE SAYS I HAVE THE BEST CONDOMS IN TOWN, CAN WE HAVE SEX? FOR £100,000.00?
WILL YOU DO IT KNOWING HE IS POSITIVE?????
REMEMBER THIS: YOU ARE ONLY COOL AND INTELLIGENT, MORDEN AND FANCY WHEN YOU ARE STILL LIVING. NOT WHEN YOU KNOW YOU DO NOT HAVE A YEAR TO GO.
DONT BE LIKE ME.
I ALWAYS WRITE MY EXAMS UNDER STRESS BECAUSE I LEFT IT UNTIL LATE TO START STUDYING. IF YOU WHERE TO SEE ME DURING EXAM TIME YOU WOULD BE STARING AT THE FACE OF STRESS.
PLEASE DO NOT LET US SEE THE FACE OF DEATH ON YOU.
On the other hand though I do understand the plight of most of my sisters out there. The fact that life sometimes forces us to do things we would never do under normal circumstances.
I think we need to be more loving as a people.
We know how to preach unity but almost none of us actually live unity. We have a lot of wounds that need healing as Zimbos’
lets start by being caring to the people closest to us, and spread the love all over. Lets be our brothers keeper.
Single gal, Hanzvadzi yangu. Hapana chakaipa pakuzvibata. Hapana chino naka kunge chawa mirira kwe nguva yakareba. Satani ndiye anotinyepera kuti Zvekuba zvino naka.
Mwana we vanhu do you know kuti most men only see sex on a woman and nothing else? And I am saying this as a man. The guys know what I mean. The first thing we do is check you out, we dont care weather you are a lawyer, teacher, or mechanic. Sadly your body and sometimes face is what most men rate you by. So while you might be in love, the guy might be in lust. When he says I love you, most of the time he is saying ‘ I like your butt’.
Now you know mumwe anga achiti tiri mhuka earlier on. Mhuka idzi hadzi tane kubhoekana, while you are planning your white wedding, He has noticed a b**** butt than yours and he has already started animal activities with her while living in your place eating your food and wearing the designer clothes you buy him.
Before you know it you are alone and positive.
Mirira mirira mirira
thats all I can say.
iwe ttgm i deliberatly omit the doctor before your name for obvious reasons.ttgm there is nothing racist kunzi uri mhuka in the context i mean.its a purely scientific concerpt and anyone should understand that.you bleed ,just like any animal.you cry just like an animal will do.being more organised is no reason to call yourself someone special.i could go on and on.
anywhere i dont see what you understand from my writing.those who know me know kuti i have no sexual taboo.when it comes to sex i will have it anyhow.handisi munhu kwaye.so hameno imi vanhu kwavo inini ndiri **** handina mukadzi handina vana and i enjoy it.i know more about isues sexual ttgm,than you because ini ndiro game rangu.so dont ask me if i know that people are the only animal that has sex for pleasure.you dont know that because iwe unoti vanhu hadzisi mhuka.you missed my point trying to show yourself as wiser.wasted effort mate.you are preaching to someone already in hell.ttgm,my point is the reason why humans and other animals have sexual drive is purely for procreation purposes .it is nature ’s means of encouraging us to make ourselves multiply.my point again is it is hard for people to abstain because its biologically put into their body set up that at some stage in heir lives they must have sex.saka wanyadziswa nei ipapa nhai hama yangu.
i would love tohear you debate live ttgm,because your arguing is very shallow.i didnot say people should leave their values whatever that is.hameno henyuzve munvana ndimi mungatondiudza kuti vakakwirwa munoti chiyi,in ndini anokwira wacho.anywhere all i meant was animal engage in sex as much as humans do.its an activity common to the animal kingdom.madoctor estandard six munonetsa,munodarikwa kufunga nesu magrade 7 epa chikwirandaombera.look its simple aids inouraya yet i am glad because despite mbiri yangu yekuhura handina aids.i use protection as much as possible.all i am saying is dont lie to people muchiti abstain abstain because its not necessary.regai vanhu va**** zvinoungwaru.kuti ndiite abstain is like a doctor teling me kuti ndirege sadza it will not work.so all i want is when you teach about aids consider people like me who will not abstain because its not their fault, they dont want to abstain.
iwe lucas unopenga here cde t.t,g.m never said he was a doctor where are you getting this. if you cant abstain dont but i strongly recommend it. there is nothing chinoshamisira in being oversexed, maybe tumaghero twauri kurara natwo turi kutoshamisika kuti sei uchizviita shasha pabonde yet you are a dsimal failure when it comes to the act.
LUCAS
YOU REPEAT YOUR ARGUMENT SEVERAL TIMES. AND YOUR USE OF FALLACIES DOES LITTLE TO HELP YOUR CAUSE.
YOU CAN NOT ATTACK MY EDUCATION TO DESTRUCT US FROM THE ARGUMENT.
MY POINT IS VERY SIMPLE YOU DO NOT NEED A DEGREE TO FIGURE THIS OUT. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE SEX YOU CAN NOT CONTRACT HIV.
ANOTHER FACT FOR YOU LUCAS. SEX IS A NEED YES BUT IT IS THE ONLY NEED WE CAN LIVE WITHOUT. AND WE HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO DO SO.
THE POINT I WAS MAKING WAS THAT SIMPLY BECAUSE WE HAVE NATURAL DESIRES IT DOES NOT EQUATE US TO ANY OTHER LIVING THING BECAUSE QUITE SIMPLY, WE ARE SUPERIOR. WE CAN CONTROL AND REASON. THATS WHY I GAVE ALL THOSE EXAMPLES OF THINGS THAT ANIMALS DO, THAT WE DO NOT DO. THEREBY RENDERING YOUR AGRUMENT INVALID.
SECONDLY CONDOMS WERE NEVER ADVERTISED AS 100% SAFE EVEN AS A CONTRACEPTIVE. SO WHEN WE PREACH ABSTINANCE HATISI KUNYEPA.
THIRDLY IF YOU WERE TO READ MY FIRST ARGUMENT AGAINST PAMMY I DID NOT ARGUE AGAINST THE USE OF CONDOMS BUT I WAS AGAINST THE NOTION OF INSTILLING DOUBT IN THE PRACTICALITIES OF ABSTINANCE.
AND LASTLY YOU ADMITTED FOR YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE ALREADY IN HELL AND THAT CASUAL SEX ‘NDIRO GAME RAKO’ SO ……..MY FRIEND THIS MESSAGE IS NOT FOR YOU, YOUR MIND IS ALREADY MADE UP.
OH BY THE WAY THERE ARE A FEW THINGS I PICKED UP FROM YOUR LAST ATTEMPT AT ARGUMENT.
1. INSULTING ME IS NOT ARGUING BUT RATHER AN ILLOGICAL AND VAIN ATTEMPT AT REPARTEE. LET YOUR ARGUMENTS TELL US HOW INTELLIGENT YOU ARE NOT YOU.
2. THE WAY YOU COIN YOUR SHONA PHRASES SOUNDS TO ME LIKE SOMEONE WHO IS TRYING TO APPEAR COOL BUT NOT REALLY ADEPT AT HARARE COLLOQUALISMS.
3. BOASTING ABOUT PROMISCUITY FURTHER REVEALS A RATHER DISTURBING NARCISSISTIC STREAK. YOU ARE ONLY THINKING ABOUT YOUR SELF AND YOU THINK YOU ARE THE BEES KNESS.
WHAT IS FACING US IS REAL AND WE HAVE TO USE ALL WE HAVE AT OUR DISPOSAL.
LETS REMIND OURSELVES ONCE AGAIN. WHY ARE WE ALL WRITING HERE?
I SAY IT IS TO ENCOURAGE, ADVISE AND BUILD EACH OTHER UP. TO LOOK FOR ALL POSSIBLE WAYS TO BEAT THIS MONSTER CALLED AIDS. AND MY POINT ABSTINANCE IS A VERY GOOD ONE. ITS NOT ABOUT BEING STANDARD SIX OR PHD BECAUSE AIDS DOES NOT LOOK AT THAT WHEN IT CATCHES YOU.
Thank you Border.
I can write here kuti “NDAKA ROVA MIKE TYSON” Ndino rova chaizvi ini……………blablabla.
Tyson wacho akazo mira apa ndobva ndazvi itira weti!!!!!
border and ttgm handina kumbotaura zvokugona.all i said is i am promiscuous.ndinowanza.i am not faithful.chete.your joint problem is you are trying to preach impossibilities.people are people and they will want to have and will have sex.teaching or trying to teach abstaining is just far fetched.thats my point.this is why aids is not easy to control because people recomend measures that are too drastic and unrealistic.imagine telling people not to have sex when everyone knows its just something your body will ask for at some stage of your life.not because you want to but because thats what nature has made a person to be.i have a problem with people who draw up impossible solutions.yes you might get one or two people who can abstain but majority can not and will not.to me aids is not statistics my friend .i have seen its effects. i experience its effects daily through people i have to help look after and all.i am not talking of pictures but people whose names i know and call.all i am saying as someone who knows the reality in an african community is abstinence is a good aim but dont expect more than 20%positive response.inga kana mapriest ari kuzvitadza wani.dont be hypocrites guys.if it was simple to abstain aids would be much less spread.the most effective practicable solution as it is now are condoms.use condoms.i dont care how much effective they are but use condoms.lie all you like about being able to abstain but use condoms.by the way what are saying when we talk of abstaining because my understaning of that is zero sex.this is why i argue that its not practicable.whether unogona kana unoita 2 seconds wafenda its just not the point.
here are my humble solutions:
1.use condoms
2.go for regular tests with your partner or wife.(by the way it comes from any direction.it can come from the wife while you are busy abstaining)
3.if you are single like me dont commit yourself until you have had at least two tests together.
4if you cant have sex hazvimanikidzwe , just dont.
5. avoid casual sex where you just have sex anywhere mumukoto and all because this is dangerous .ukazvijaira uchazvida usina condom.
abstinence?hameno pane vanozvigona itai personally i just think its not practicable.
sorry if you got insulted by my last contribution.those who know me know that given insulting people or sex i would rather go to sex.handitukane nemunhu.i have no education .i am just a lucky man who is where he is because God has provided.enjoy your abstinence while i enjoy ujoki hwangu.dont pretend .
at least i try to write shona.i am a bulawayo born and raised.i speak ndebele and that i can speak and write shona ndebele kalanga tonga nambia sotho and shangani is something that i am proud of as a zimbabwean.you can fault my shona doctor but i try .
about sex yes not everyone obviously would find me good but thats not what i said anywhere.all i said is i am a sex pest not kuti i am good.izvo zvinotozikanwa nevanorara neni.i am not boasting and if you find its a problem and i need help by all means ndibatsireyi.ndatenda ngiyabonga taboka talumba
Lucas what we are saying here is very simple.
Do not rubbish abstinance
Both you and I have a duty on this forum to sharpen each others’ awareness. There are 13 year olds who will read your arguments and think abstinace is an impossible thing.
THIS WHOLE ARGUMENT IS NOT ABOUT YOU OR YOUR LIFESTYLE.
ITS A BOUT THE FIGHT AGAINST AIDS.
AND ALL WE ARE SAYING IS IT IS NOT IMPOSSIBLE TO ABSTAIN.
AND PLEASE STATISTICS LIKE 20%? YOU KNOW YOU JUST MADE THAT ONE UP.
YOU CAN SPEAK FOR OTHERS LIKE YOU. NO PROBLEM.
JUST DONT THINK THE WHOLE WORLD IS LIKE YOU.
IF OKAY, 20% SURVIVE AT LEAST WE CAN LIVE TO FIGHT ANOTHER DAY.
iwe cde ttmg i am not rubbishing anything nhai.all i am saying is recommending abstinence is a tough call.kasi wakabviswa chinhu kanhi iwe.abstinence is ideal yes it would guarantee us kuti hakuchina aids zvachose.its like saying if you dont want hang over dont drink .its true its final but is it practicable.who would heed that.already you are relying on idealistic mentality of righteous people yet your problem (righteous people) is you hide from one another and pretend all is possible.
the fact of life though is people will have sex and unprotected sex is risky.as i have already said sex on its own is not risky so let people have their normal life their sex their everything but safely.dont lie to youself and others because people will find it more difficult to abstain than to protect.why carry a bag of rocks when you can carry fearthers for the same reward.protection works thats a fact and i have experienced it.not everyone uses protection that is why aids is spreading.dont recommend extremities where simple solutions will suffice.if people abstain then goodluck.made up or proven some prcentage of people which i believe to be 20 in a specific area of reseach /sampling/whatever was done,would probably abstain but honestly that as a measure would be least successful.i probably represent more common people with my wayward behaviour than you and other good people.its certainly not just about me but it is people like me the ordinary bedroom bazooka type of person who are at more risk.i am talking about myself because it is people like me who are likely to have aids although you also can.saka i am not boasting i am only giving you a common man who is promiscuous.just go to the metrogirl page and read for yourself how people are obsessed with issues sexual to realise that abstinence would not be sustainable.
if you want to persue this more i am on vachivi99@yahoo. com.i dont hide behind dodgy names and initials i am lucas mbambo and if you get my trust more you can even call me .i am a real person.
MY BROTHER,
THIS WAS NEVER INTENDED TO BE A WAR. LET US FOCUS ON THE ISSUE WE HAVE AT HAND.
I AM SERIOUS ABOUT CREATING A HEIGHTENED AWARENESS OF THE FIGHT AGAINST HIV/AIDS.
AS FOR YOUR REQUEST AND FURTHER I AM NOW DECLINING ANY MORE EXCHANGES.
NOT THAT I AM AFRAID TO PIT MY WITS AGAINST ANYBODY, ITS JUST THAT I AM NOT IN THE HABBIT OF FIGHTING UNARMED PEOPLE.
I may have gone a touch too far there Sorry Lucas!!!
One love.
ITS FINE TTGM.AIDS KILLS AIDS INOURAYA.AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THAT.I DONT BEGRUDGE CYBER COMMUNITIES OR CYBER PEOPLE ,HONESTLY IS THERE ANY POINT TO.A CYBER PERSON WHO USES A PSEUDONYM CAN BE ANYONE.MY NEIGHBOUR , MY FRIEND MY MANAGER, MY GIRLFRIEND , MY ENEMY , MY DOCTOR SOMEONE NEAR OR SOMEONE VERY FAR.WOULD THEY BOTHER ME,NO.I JUST ENJOY CYBER DEBATES AS THEY SHOW HOW PEOPLE ARGUE IF THEY DONT KNOW WHO THEY ARE ARGUING WITH
One love
Furubhemba haiite boys, pfekai majombo, had a test last week after reading this, all clear, thank
God. Don’t take risks fellas and lasses.
Problem is that people’s eyes and ears do not work.I know that many people get into trouble but before that, they would have ”heard or seen” something strange and like ”it”, when it happens, it is like a ”de jeur vuu”, not to mind my spellings.I have seen many people even here in SA, through to the same or like situations!.I have had young men and woment telling stories of mishaps which i later trace with them to show how much ”that could be avoided”.Probably, it was the will of God.Some problems are too obvious to be experienced!.Girls love men for the wrong reasons and so do the boys!.Tongoti ”Warumwa , Warumwa”, because tikataura kuti uyo haaite, the next thing tinonzwa wavakumuudza kuti ”Hanzi naUncle UBA unenge unowanza vakadzi, saka ungandirwarisa”-Ndiye Uncle UBA nadzo tuzu !
Taurai henyu Uncle
India alone has a b**** population than the whole of Africa and South America put together. Contrary to Western propaganda, Africa is servely underpopulated. What needs to happen is competent and continuing HIV testing of every school leaver once a year. Money grants should be offered to encourage these school leavers to start large families like the governments do in Europe. What must end is the nortoriously haphazard western style HIV testing and Western NGOs like USAID who are aloud to roam around promoting and enforcing sterlisation on African and other developing world populations.
hmmm
A thinking man/woman. I like your style T C. I respect thinkers.
You have provoked a line of thought that not many have yet to encounter. A systematic testing mechanism….
And promoting an wareness to a new culture of testing and being in charge of ones health in a way that is not stigmatised but rather Standardied. In the same manner in which we look after our monies and check our bank accounts regularly, so should it be with our health.
And this becomes more than just about aids but about our entire health too. Even cars have MOTs we should do the same in Africa, Programmes like Wellman and Wellwoman should be adopted, standardised and customised for Africa.
Good one TC, good one.
i agree with tswane city (tc) on the fact of africa being under populated.but then this has been for a reason.first of all people are poor and having any large families would increase poverty by the same factor.its fine to worry about certain things but what do we have in place to manage what we wish for.imagine a zanu-pf style of government looking after 5 times the population zimbabwe has.even the cholera epidemic would be carterstrofic.a large family needs more resources which many poor africans can barely afford.just look at the gdp figures of african countries and even the inflation rates.it might come as a surprise to many people that some african countries have inflation figures similar to zimbabwe only they donot even measure it let alone report.
africa before thinking of fancy solutions we should deal with our political failures.stabilise our politics whether we want kings chiefs morden democracy styles i dont care as long as its peaceful and stable.then obviously we need stable economies based on our vast resources.manage our economies well be they barter trade or whatever,manage them well and efficiently then we will get somewhere.in the meantime we must try to make policies that are not just home grown but that slowly take us from our perenial dependency on the west .in the meantime we should embress as much of what we get as possible until we are so well self sufficient that we can tell crooks to go hang.for now anemari ndiye mukuru.
aids needs to be adressed at source,ie the person.we are promiscuous guys .a lot of people find this hard to admit but we are promiscuous.the sooner we view ourselves honestly the better.i know all this about hee, i am a deacon at church hee i am a youth adviser.its all dandy but within that church this church that there are a lot of people dying hiding behind faulse innocence.it is either you be strong enough to walk away from it all or you be brave enough to face the reality of your promiscuity and deal with it or with your safety.people need to be taught ,yes they have.africa has not enough testing kits at the moment yet most of them have more guns than europe.there are places in africa where they are very aware of dangers of aids but there are no enough condoms.there are places where despite the aids grants and aid nations get still people die without knowing what killed them all because they cant be tested.good politics is where to start.the best friend aids has in africa is the politician who is corupt and would rather build a mansion out of aids funds or have a high military budget than a health one.attend aids seminars my brothers and you will know some of these facts.its very sad.in the meantime those who can and are single like me , never have unprotected sex with someone not tested same time with you.simple its your life . zimbabwe is just a summary of african problems and was one country doing very well on aids management until the devil took over in the form of our leader’s madness in the past few years
I agree with some of your sentiments there Lucas.
1. in order to implement some( or most of these ideas) we need transparency and stability in goverment. That is the building block we desperately need right now. Even corrupt but stable will do for now.
2. We need to address the promiscuity issue. But not in a sarcastic way. Like it or not there are people out there who do not mess about who are loyal to their spouses not forgetting the single and celibate. They need to be encouraged because they are doing a good thing. It might not make the headlines but it is good. To all those who are doing good or desire to do good. Keep on keeping on!! GOD BLESS YOU.
3.We can start by organising ourselves and making small changes whilst we await b**** changes on a macro level.
4. You mentioned something that I too have noticed.
Have you ever seen the news and watched footage of African rebels especially the latest ones in the DRC? Mennn!!!!! They have brand new army fatigues including cool berets and mean lookin guns.
And you say to yourself “Hang on, these guys can not even afford a loaf of bread let alone a pair of levis, S
And you say to yourself “Hang on, these guys can not even afford a loaf of bread let alone a pair of levis, SO WHERE THE HELL ARE THEY GETTING ALL THESE GRENADES UNIFORMS AND STAFF?” SOMEONE SOMEWHERE IS SUPPLYING THEM, AND BENEFITING FROM THE CONFLICT.
WE NEED TO STOP BEING MANIPULATED GUYS I’M TELLING YOU.
i have been to some of those conflict regions of africa my brother. i have seen what are called rebels.i probably have been closer tto situations of conflict than i even imagined.right you are in that we have to stop being manipulated but the question is who is doing the manipulation.its so sad that drc is rich and those riches have remained a conflict point than glory.who needs to kill so as to be rich.obviously not the rebel leader.there are diamond traders and the sort.if the world was honest they would deal with these issues long back because the world know who is behind africa’s conflicts.but then you are faced by a world whose priorities are up side down.like the mukapas and other african leaders happy to go and meet rebels yet they cannot solve an unarmed conflict in zimbabwe.anywhere the topic is aids and we have to make sure we are safe.
The other issue related to Aids (but it can be a topic on its own) is under-age sex.
There seems to be a casual attitude in Zim and most parts of Africa towards this issue. I for one am not happy to see girls of below 16 getting “married” pregnant or moving around with older men. These older men think the age group is safer and so they target it and corrupt it.
It is a form of Paedophilia and it must be stumped out. What chance do these kids have when grown men start smiling and leering over them at 13 or 14?. It is up to us as society to tackle this issue and stop this nonsene.
You will see even in the hood these unemployed guys sitting on street corners waiting for high school children. If we let this happen, we are reducing our chances of beating aids. Let the kids finish school fiirst please. If it is amongst school kids its another matter altogether.
We need to shame these people and some of them are even prominent people in society who go aroung perpatrating this evil amongst kids. When one (being young and naiive) starts talking about his car and the movie he took her to, the whole group is gone. And we all just look on and let it happen.
Zim is good because we have laws against this but PARENTS let it happen as long as the idiot marries her. As a father myself I do not see how I can call someone a son-in-law when they have commited Statutory rape on my child.
If the idiot starts mistreating the child, they are not empowered to defend themselves being so young and under-educated.
This one area we need to tighten up.
BOOM.
Pasi ne aids.
ndini ndaimbonzi TTGM ndadzokera kune zita rangu rekare. TTGM yakundi bhowa.
CDE T.T.G.M you are a true brother,som eof your advice is very sound and good and i would take it.Thats good advice to say there is nothing as wonderful as eventually getting what you have long been waiting for.Hats of to you for that big bro.Its as if you knew my situation.There is indeed nothing wrong with waiting but sometimes its so painful.Anyway,i personally will take you advice.Thanks
Wazvita hako hanzvadzi yangu. Pamberi ne rudo. Pamberi ne Zimbabwe!! Pamberi nemaZimbabweans!!!!
pammy the topic has been ravaged ,kasi wakadzokera nigeria kumbonofunga here sweetheart.release another one
Vakomana pamberi ne Abstinance but guys i know how difficult it is for non virgins.I would suggest “solo missions”, “mhandara ruwoko” (Bonyora) to kill off the surge.After I had a close call back in zimbabwe pandakaita siki, now ndino bonyora and im good.
MaCondoms are not safe,i dont know about you but when i have sex with a woman i go full out-heavy petting during foreplay which then leaves me with wet fingers.Now with wet fingers im fooling myself by thinking kuti if I wear a condom im safe because im trying to protect my blambi from the same “soup” that i have on my fingers.
And after doing the did i have never successfully removed a condom without getting a little of that “soup ye mh*ta” on my blambi.
I am negative only by the grace of God.Abstain boyz dzangu.